The Turning Point in My Relationship

Let me share with you about the turning point in the relationship I’m having with my wife.

I felt the strain in our relationship when our first child, a daughter, was 7 years old. Everyday my wife bombarded me with the problems she was having in raising her up. She was not happy with our daughter behavior and she blamed me for that. She said our daughter behaving that way because I always pampered her. The bombardment, the nagging, continues until she was 19 years old. Then my wife saw something, she saw what causing her to complaint and nags about our daughter day in day out. It was the expectation she had about her, the standard and ideal of a good daughter. She expected her to be a hardworking girl and excel in her studies. But the daughter was playful and did not get good grade. She also saw that she put meaning to what happened; she put the meaning that she was not a good mother. That made her upset and angry.

When she saw that, and the impact it had on our relationship, she gave it up. From that moment she was able to accept our daughter the way she is and the way she is not. Then the nagging stops. OK, not 100%. Sometime she nags but she quickly realized it and stops. Our conversation after that was not about “what’s wrong with your daughter?” but what we, as parents, can do to support her to do well in her study and live a happy life. Amazing thing happened after that, she scores A in her final year college examination.

That was the turning point in my wife relationship with our eldest daughter. My wife saw our daughter differently although she has not change. Wow!!! I felt very happy and relief. I never thought it was possible after more than 12 years of suffering. Anyway, you don’t have to wait for your partner to change to have an awesome, long-lasting and fulfilling relationship with your partner. You can change your view of her/him, accept her/him the way she/he is and she/he is not. You’ll be amazed with the results.

My wife may not see what she saw if not for the education (and God’s guidance) that she got from Landmark Education. You can visit Landmark Education’s website for details (This is not an affiliate link; I don’t get any financial reward for giving you the link).

You also can get insights to save your marriage from Amy Waterman’s book, Save My Marriage Today. You can read my review on Save My Marriage Today HERE. Or you can visit Amy’s website HERE to learn more.

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