Change Yourself, You’ll Save Your Marriage

Sound impossible? Do you think that you are not the one “with the problem”? You may be right. Your spouse is the one “with the problem”. She/he needs to change to save your marriage and you don’t have to do anything. Consider this; changing yourself is the only way to save your marriage. Do you really want to save your marriage? If your answer is yes, you need to change yourself. There is no other way to save your marriage. Trick, manipulating or trying to change your partner won’t work. Or you rather want your marriage to deteriorate so that you can blame your spouse for it? The need to be right is one of the 25 relationship killers. You are right that your spouse don’t listen to you. You are right that your spouse always blame or criticize you, and many other things that you are right about your spouse. Whether you want to defend your right to be right and have a broken marriage as a result, or give up the right to be right and save your marriage is up to you. The choice is yours.

Let me share an example from Save My Marriage Today FREE Mini-Course so that you can grasp fully what I wanted to put forward. Mary’s husband always promises to bring home the groceries that she needs but always forgets to do so. For Mary, this is inexcusable. She lashes out at her husband every time he comes home empty-handed. Her response or behavior drives her husband away further and further each time. She blames or criticizes the husband for not bringing home the groceries and she had to go out herself to get it. She is right that her husband always break his promises. She is right that because of her husband failure to keep his promises, they always have late dinner. If Mary keeps blaming or criticizing her husband, sooner or later their marriage will be broken. Mary can change how she response to the “problem”, that is by giving up the right to be right. When she stops blaming or criticizing the husband, he realizes that not having the groceries does indeed inconvenience for Mary. As a result, her husband eventually asks her what they could do so that one of them doesn’t have to get the groceries during the week. He confesses that he doesn’t get the groceries because he is tired after work and hates having to make a detour to the store. As a result, Mary and her husband decide to plan better and spend a bit more time on their weekend shopping trip so that they don’t run out of food mid-week.

What Mary did was not asking or demanding her husband to change himself (keep his words). What she did was to change her respond or behavior with regard to her husband didn’t keep his words. When he is not been blamed (with word or action), his ego was untouched. As a result, he can be his real self.

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