Why Women Leave Men

December 9, 2009 | Leave a Comment

If you are worried that your wife or girlfriend is about to leave you, or has already left you, you may want an answer to the question, “why women leave men?”  The truth of the matter is that it’s probably not what you think, and there can be several reasons.

In any long term relationship things pile up.  Little frustrations, hurts, insensitive remarks can all add up over a period of time and each little thing is like a brick in a wall.  After a while you will have one very big wall.  That’s the point where one party will throw their hands up and say ‘Enough!” and leave.  The important thing is to make sure your relationship never gets to that point.

One thing you have to do is un-learn much of what you’ve been told about women and what they want.  If you think women are needy, and high maintenance you need to re-evaluate your thinking (of course some women are that way, but not most of them).  While this may sound stupid here is something you should try: stop thinking of your woman as a woman, instead think of her as a person.  Treat her the same way you like people to treat you.

One of the biggest mistakes men make is they either treat their woman like a whore, a surrogate mommy, or they go to the complete opposite side of the spectrum and put her on a pedestal where they treat her like she’s made of porcelain.  The best thing to do is treat her like a human being: a unique individual that has her own mind, needs, and wants. Get to know the real woman, not the person you want her to be, or think she should be. 

Don’t lump all women together.  Don’t assume your wife or girlfriend likes a certain thing or should act a certain way just because some other woman (or your mom) does.  More than likely you have several male friends.  Do you treat each one of them the exact same way, or do you modify your behavior (slightly) for each unique relationship you have?

Women leave men because they are unsatisfied in one way or another.  Each relationship is different but at the end of the day your wife or girlfriend will leave because she is not getting enough of her needs met, it’s as simple as that. 

Most women want their husband or boyfriend to be a friend and confidant.  They want someone who acts like they actually like them.  Many men don’t act like they even like their women and they certainly don’t treat them like a trusted friend.

Women have sexual needs just like men.  Our society has done a huge disservice to men and women because it tells men they have this huge sex drive and that it’s ok to pick up women whenever they want to and that women have to be ‘good girls’ who will only have sex with their husband.

The fact of the matter is that is not true. Women have the same sex drive as men, they are just conditioned to not act on it whenever the whim hits them.  What women don’t want is to think that their man only wants them for sex.  Women will often disconnect from their men physically because even though they like sex they also like non-sexual physical contact and many men think they have to turn every incident of physical contact into a sexual encounter.  After a while your woman won’t even want you to touch her, and she’ll find someone else.

So if you want to avoid having your wife or girlfriend leave and you want to  answer the question: “why women leave men?” just follow some of these simple tips and treat your women like someone who you like and love and your relationship should last a long time.

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Relationship Psychology

November 14, 2009 | Leave a Comment

No relationship is perfect, but it is possible to make your partnership more enjoyable for each of you. After all, relationship psychology is all about finding ways to maintain a balance that stops one of both partners from becoming disillusioned with the union. If you’ve already broken up with your partner, then using similar relationship psychology principles can also help you to get your ex back.

Relationship psychology is about teaching each person inside the relationship how to recognize destructive or unhelpful patterns that could potentially be driving your partner away. The unfortunate part about most couples is that they often believe the other person will think the same way as they do. In truth, men and women have very different ways of communicating those things they need or want.

Women need to remember that men place more value on actions rather than words. This means a woman who constantly tries to get her partner to address problems in the relationship by talking about the issues or arguing about bad behavior is almost certain to see an increase in those negative patterns.

Instead of talking or arguing your way through an issue, try using a more psychological approach. Men respond more positively to your actions. They want to know that they are capable of making you happy. A man who is constantly faced with an upset partner will begin to think there’s nothing he can do to make you happy, so he’ll withdraw even further from you, even to the point of breaking up.

However, if he’s faced with a happy, confident partner who is a pleasure to spend time with, he’s less likely to withdraw. In fact, he’ll likely draw even closer because he enjoys being around you. Men in this situation will often find themselves doing whatever they can to make sure you stay as happy as you were on those occasions. If you find it difficult to raise your self-confidence, then try giving yourself a mini-make over or spend some time doing something you enjoy. When you feel good within yourself, you’re more likely to radiate that confidence outwardly as well.

Men need to remember that women value slightly different emotional triggers than they do. Women want to know that the man they love places enough value on her to really listen to what she’s saying. If you feel your wife or girlfriend is pulling away from you, then sit down and just listen.

Ask questions about what your partner has just said and then take notice of her responses. If men can learn to listen attentively without allowing their mind to wander off, their girlfriends will begin to feel more loved, which leads them in turn to develop into a good mood, which makes them happy and enjoyable to send time with.

These primary differences in relationship psychology between men and women are simple things you can do to help strengthen your existing relationship, but they’ll also work equally well if you’re trying to get your ex back.

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The Best Spouse Relationships

June 27, 2009 | Leave a Comment

The best spouse relationships are based on love and respect. That goes without saying, doesn’t it? Everyone probably realizes that love and respect are crucial to having a good marriage. But beyond love and respect there are a few things that can help spouse relationships.

Think back to when you were first married. If you’re newly married, think back to when you first met and were dating. How did you treat your partner?  You probably treated your partner with respect, but also with kindness and thoughtfulness.

Unfortunately, it’s common that the longer we know someone, the less kind we tend to be toward them. One would think that the opposite holds true. But we start to take the other person for granted and think they’ll always be there, no matter what.

Think of the last time you went to the bank or grocery store and spoke to the cashier. Maybe you exchanged words with a stranger. How was the tone of your voice and your words? You probably sounded like the sweetest person on the planet. That person might have thought “how polite” when you walked away.

Now think to the words and the tone of the voice you use with your spouse sometimes. When you get angry or you’re unhappy about something, think about how you sound. Would you ever speak that way to a stranger?  If you’re thinking “probably not” then you’ve started taking advantage of your spouse.

People do it with close friends, parents and children, too. If we could record people’s conversations and play them back at a different time, people might be ashamed of how they sounded. And they probably wouldn’t speak that way to someone they didn’t know well for fear of hurting their feelings!

Good spouse relationships are kind ones. Everyone gets angry now and then. And yes, everyone says things he or she regrets in an angry and even hateful tone of voice. But you can keep these instances to a minimum by just thinking about whether you’d talk to your postman or your boss that way.

Thoughtfulness is also an important factor in good spouse relationships. People love their spouses, but it seems the longer they’re together, they less they sometimes show it. Your spouse is one person you should make a point of being thoughtful toward, too.

In the beginning when you’re first dating someone or first married, you might send (or receive) flowers, cards and little surprises. Generally after people are married for a while, these sorts of things slow down or stop. Remembering to be thoughtful and surprise your spouse can help makes yours one of the better spouse relationships.

Try to keep in mind that marriage isn’t written in stone. There really are other opportunities out there for your spouse. Bring back some of the things you did and said when you were trying to win this person. Be kind and thoughtful as much as you can. Those combined with love and respect will make yours one of the enduring spouse relationships.

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Flirting With Your Spouse

December 13, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Hey friends, festival season is approaching fast. That means you will get some holidays to spend with your family. If you want to bring the romance and fire back in your marriage, we are giving you a number of ways to enjoy your marriage even after five or more of your marital relationship. Whether people go for arranged or love marriage, after some years of marriage they start having a monotonous feeling in their marriage. It might be possible that there are so many responsibilities on your shoulders; you are unable to spend quality time with your spouse. But it is not important to spend a lot of time together. What is important is to make effective use of the limited time that you can find.

If you or spouse does not have enough time to share with each other, you can try flirting with each other to bring spark in your marital bond. Flirting with your husband does not mean that you have to spend time in bed to improve your relationship. We know many of you get little time with each other because of your professional liabilities. But flirting means showing affection to your partner by loving gestures and talks. It is a great way to re-infuse romance into your lives.

You are going to attend some party, but you want your husband to stay at home with you. It can be made possible through flirting. Though you may not realize it, you have an inherent power within you to make him obey you merely with your sight. Just deeply stare into the eyes of your spouse for some time, lick your lips and look away. Repeat it for some time and after about 15 minutes only, you will find your husband kissing you blindly. He will definitely forget about the party or meeting his friends.

After some years of your marriage, your man is now a very professional person and might not be able to pay attention to you. It is harmless on your part to make the first move; after all it is the question of saving your marriage. No matter if he is physically absent, you can flirt with him with your enchanted sound. Yes, after the powerful sight, he will recognize you with the strength of your voice. You can call him in his office and let him know again and again that you miss him endlessly. Give him as much compliments as you can because men are no different from women. They love to hear compliments and loving notes. If you are little shy in conveying your feelings there is an additional option for you. Either you can record a cassette in your voice or choose a romantic audio tape and insert it in the music system of your husband’s car. While going to office, when he hears your surprise gift, he would definitely be bound to come home early in the evening.

Some other ways to get flirty with your husband is to be active while making physical contact. Men do not like dummies in the bed and to refresh your relationship you have to be like his companion rather than some rubber doll. Show him your care and love with little gifts. Place them in the most exceptional places so when he gets them, they will give him more joy and happiness. With these few flirty steps, we are sure you will able boost your love relationship with your spouse.

About the Author: Gabriel L is a coach who specializes in helping singles and couples to discover their problems and to improve their love life. He is also an expert in internet dating strategies. For helpful hints and advices on dating and relationships, you can visit his website at: http://www.onlinedatingcode.com.

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