I Miss My Ex

May 15, 2010 | Leave a Comment

How often do you hear people saying I miss my ex?  Probably a lot and the sad thing is that most relationships that finish shouldn’t.  They end because of poor communication which can be easily improved if only you know how.  Very few couples break up because of infidelity. In fact, being able to talk properly to each other would often make the reasons behind the infidelity disappear.

So why do we find it so difficult to communicate?  There are a number of reasons but the main one is that our brains are wired differently. Our brains process information in various ways and generally speaking in women there are certain parts of the brain namely the language center that is more developed than in a mans.  That doesn’t mean that women are superior to men only that they are different.  A woman tends to be more emotional whereas a man is more logical.  So when discussing a problem, it can seem as if they are speaking different languages.

Other things get in the way as well such as pride and fear. When you have too much pride, you don’t want to be seen as the weaker partner.  Funnily enough the very things that you think are weak such as the ability to admit when you are wrong or that you miss your partner are actually a sign of strength of character.  It is knowing what we want out of life and grabbing it with both hands that makes us happy not whether we were the ones to apologize last in an argument.

Fear is another big factor in the breakdown of partnerships.  Most of us have an underlying fear of rejection. This may be caused by past experiences or a lack of self esteem or both.  So instead of telling our partner that we love them and want to stay with them forever, we walk away for fear they don’t feel the same way. The sad truth is that they probably do love you too but are also afraid of laying their emotions on the line for fear that they will get trampled.

It is very sad to see couples that are great together break up. It is especially so when they have been together a long time so have invested lots of emotional hours into the relationship.  Often the break up is caused by life factors such as stress at work or worries over kids or finances.  Other times one partner may feel jealous of the relationship between their partner and one of their own kids.  Children can play a huge part in splitting up their parents not by choice but because children aged 5 -7 often become jealous of their parents. For example a boy may feel that his Dad is more important to his mum that he is so he will stir up trouble between them.  Or a girl may feel jealous of her Dad’s affection for her mum. This is completely natural and a phase in childhood that most kids grow out of.  But while it is happening, it can prove very stressful to all concerned.

So the next time you hear someone say I miss my ex, tell them to contact their old partner and see if they can get together for a chat and just maybe they will get back together again.

Want Your Ex Back? A Lesson from Being Robbed At Gunpoint!

January 26, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Is there something you can learn by being robbed at gunpoint?

As TW Jackson explains in the Magic of Making Up System, after your initial contact… you want to set up your “1st Date” again. AND the MOST important part, the secret and the part nobody else but Jackson will tell you is the date HAS to be EMOTIONALLY CHARGED. Okay?

That DOES NOT mean ‘dinner and a movie’. It’s because… well… it’s BORING… and does not create a bonding… or in our case a RE-bonding experience.

In fact, you want to pack in several emotionally charged mini-dates in a span of a couple hours. Why?

If you just do ‘dinner and a movie’ you lose out on a sociologically PROVEN principle… emotionally charged experiences = bond.

Look at it in another way.

Last time you went to the bank, do you remember the person in line in front of you? Behind you? Probably not. Me neither.

But, what if while you were in the bank, it was ROBBED AT GUNPOINT? The robbers couldn’t get the safe open. The robbers are livid, screaming and waving huge guns around. The tension feels so thick you could cut through it with a knife. You are lying face down on the cold bank floor and can see your breath fogging up the tile below. You are trembling…because it is eerily silent for a moment.

“Oh my God!”

“Where are the robbers?”

“Are they behind me?”

“Are they watching me?”

So you slowly move your eyes around and see a sweet older lady lying right next to you. She looks a little like Grandma, and you come out of your own haze enough to realize that she is even more terrified than you. She is softly sobbing.

You slowly reach out and take her hand in yours and give her a little squeeze that says…”it’s go to be all right.”

NOW! Let me ask?

“Are you going to EVER forget that older lady?” “Do you think she will EVER forget you?”

Not in a million Sundays!

Now…I’m not saying to go rob a bank on your first date! LOL.

But you want to go on an EMOTIONALLY charged and exciting date… and preferably several mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

A short roller coaster ride is one GREAT example.

TW Jackson teaches you more about things like emotionally charged dates in the Magic of Making Up System. You’ll also discover psychological tactics and techniques you can use to get you BACK on that first date with your ex again.

Get a special unannounced bonus called ‘Mind Magic’ when you reserve your copy of the ‘Magic of Making Up System’ through this special link:

What Will You Do to Get Your Ex Back?

October 30, 2008 | Leave a Comment

What do you think people normally do to get their ex back? Studies show that some of the common things that people do to get their ex back are:

  • Apologizing and swearing that things will be different from now on
  • Telling her/him that you love her/him and she or he will always be the only woman/man for you
  • Giving your ex reassurance that you have changed so both of you should try again
  • Persuading her/him to have a conversation with you about giving the relationship another chance
  • Using money, kids, jealousy, or some other kind of manipulative leverage to “force” her/him to come back

Sad to say, the above ploys, tricks or any form of manipulation and persuasion that people do to win their ex back can actually pushed her/him away, rather than getting her/him back. It’s natural, the time after a breakup is an emotional time and one tend to act based on emotion and made those crucial mistakes.

Thus if you recently broken up with your true love, it’s crucial for you to know the common mistakes people make following a breakup and refrain yourself from doing it.

Annalyn Caras, author of Win Back Love, discussed about 10 common mistakes that people normally do in their quest to get their ex back. She also shows how you can avoid doing the same mistakes and damaging your chances of getting back together with your ex. Visit her website through this link: http://savemarriagesite.com/go/winbacklove.html

Win Back Your Lost Love

October 18, 2008 | Leave a Comment

I stumbled upon a free resource on winning love back and found it to be a very useful win back love guide. The mini ebook was written by Katie, the author of Win Back Your Lost Love. Basically what Katie teaches in the ebook can be divided into 3 sections:

  • The common mistakes that people make when trying to win back love.
  • What went wrong in the first place? You can’t fix the problem if you don’t know what it is.
  • 4-step action plan to attract lover back.

One of the 5 mistakes that people make as discussed by Katie was “playing victim”. It is obvious that playing victim won’t work in winning love back. The sad thing is that common people are not aware that they are playing victim. What they didn’t see probably are:

  • They want to make their ex wrong for living them.
  • Justify that their ex are jerks.
  • Dominate people around them or win their sympathy.

You can learn more from the book. I don’t have the distribution right to ebook, but you can download it free from Katie’s website. http://www.truelovereturns.com

Getting Her Back For Good – By Michael Webb

October 7, 2008 | Leave a Comment

A few days ago I wrote about Michael Webb’s new book, “Getting Her Back For Good”. What so special about this book? What make this book so different compare to the rest of books in the “How to Get Lover Back” market, beside specifically written for men?

What Michael teaches is not about using some sneaky techniques and manipulation to get their lover back like the other books. Using those techniques may bring her back to you, but it won’t last. “Getting Her Back For Good”, teaches you how to be a better self, how to be the man that your lover once fall in love with. You may not aware the real reason why she left. The reasons that she gave you were not the real reasons, even if she thought they were. You need to know the real reasons and deal with them so that you stand a chance of getting her back for good.

“Getting Her Back For Good” also is not about give in to her demands, pleading for her to come back or dressing nicer to attract her back. You need to understand and apply what Michael has to teach if you want to stand a chance of getting her back for good.

For more info on “Getting Her Back For Good”, please visit Michael Webb site or read our review.

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