Convincing a Spouse to Save a Marriage

August 31, 2008 | Leave a Comment

“I’ve been married to my wife for 15 years now and I was at total lost as to what was going wrong with our marriage. She just seemed to stop loving me and her friends were all telling her to divorce me, it was a nightmare!”

If you were in this situation, what will you do? Almost everyone knew that convincing a spouse to save a marriage is a very daunting challenge. Are you going to give in to your spouse wants and demands? Are you going to beg or plead for more chance or are you going to force your partner to understand what went wrong? If these you have in mind, reconsider it. It is not going to work.

“I’ve totally change the way I approach the situation, it was not easy, but during the last three months, the turn around in our relationship has been simply amazing. And her friends are a lot more supportive of our marriage too… I’m so grateful.” – Steven Kitchen, Canada.

Why begging and pleading not going to work in convincing a spouse to save a marriage? It is because beg and plead show that you are desperate. Desperation will cause your partner to feel suffocated and will push her or him even further.

“I knew I could not change her mind and I had to let things happen naturally but I also knew I could influence her with my behavior and action. Ten months after applying what I have learned, my wife told me that how wonderful her life is now and she was amazed that I was able to turn things around…Without this knowledge, we most certainly would ended up in divorce.” – Jeff Wann, Indianapolis.

Convincing a spouse to save a marriage by saying “I love you” is not going to work either. Just because you have love for your partner it doesn’t mean you can stop the arguing and disagreements. It’s because you don’t know how to deal with built-up anger. The word sorry can never take back the painful words said to each other in the heat of argument. Relying solely on love in such situation will frustrate both of you and end up putting more stress in the relationship.

As I see it, if you want to convince your spouse to save your marriage, you need to acknowledge the problem. Then take 100% responsibility that your marriage will work even though your partner is resign and cynical about it. Change your way of being and you’ll be amazed with the result.

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