Saving Marriages With Unconditional Love

September 9, 2008 | Leave a Comment

In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.

A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these men, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain.

When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love.

So what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.

So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.

But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.

Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.

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I Can’t Stop Arguing With My Spouse

September 6, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Sometime I got irritated when my wife told me how to do things around the house. I was doing the dishes last weekend, and she told me how to do it. I reacted to it and she brought up the past, and argument ensues.

This is not the first time we have arguments over silly thing. Last month we had argument over a misplaced bottle of vitamin. I can’t find the bottle at the usual place and I have to turn the fridge upside-down. I asked my partner where the bottle is. The answer I got was, “You are so disorganize, open your eyes.” A simple answer as to where the bottle is would have save me a lot of time and frustration.

What I want to share here is I am surprised that we still have arguments, on and off, although both us have the technique to deal with “provocation”. So, what is missing here?

Communication, communication, communication. Communication is not about speaking, it’s about being present, about listening. Have you ever wondered why your spouse said you’re not listening to her or him even though you heard what she or he was saying?

What had happened? I misinterpreted her answer as “she was making me wrong”, she misinterpreted my response as “he was invalidating me”. Fortunate for us, we have the “how to” and we were able to sort the “conflicts” quickly. In doing the dishes, my wife’s concern was to get the dishes sparkle clean. The implicit message in my response was, “I know what I’m doing, you don’t have to tell me how to do”.

Do you want to be able to have positive communication with your partner, and save your marriage? Learning how to communicate better is not enough, it just teaches you how to fight better.

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For Better or Worse, In Sickness and In Health

September 4, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Do you remember the love that brought the two of you together that day? Seem but a distant memory?

Nobody ever said it would be easy, and certainly nothing prepares you for the life change that you undertake in marriage. There is no manual that comes with the marriage license that tells you how to make things work. So you blunder on, doing the best you can. But what if that’s not enough? Don’t be scared to ask for help. You can save yourself the stress and emotional heartache and re ignite the passion that you once both felt. Let Amy Waterman help you and your partner resolve your conflicts, and get your loving partner back. Its not going to be easy, but Amy provides you with all the relationship advice tools necessary to facilitate dialogue and works towards repairing the hurt of a failing marriage.

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