3 Ways to Win Your Lover Back

September 27, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Have you lost the hope of ever getting back together with your lover? After a tough breakup, it’s only natural to think that way sometimes.  But we need hope.   Hope is the first step to getting back together.   We can’t get very far when we give up.

When we are down in the dumps, it seems impossible to ever feel the joy and excitement that comes from sharing a deep, loving relationship with the one you love.

But there is good news.  You can get back together with you lover.  There is hope. There are so many things you can do to get your lover back and I’ll give three of them here.

1. Take the focus off of getting back together.

Have a good time and be yourself. Your ex fell in love with you at one time. You were such a great person at that time. Since breakup brings out many emotions, you may be acting quite differently than you were when you first fell in love.  Have a good time and be yourself, be that great person again. Don’t pressure your ex to get back together with you. No one wants to make a decision when they feel pressured.

Now strip all the extra things you might be focusing on right now and instead, just concentrate on being the wonderful, genuine, carefree, beautiful person you’ve always been.  More than anything, this will go a long way to returning your lover into your arms.

2. What if your ex has a new love interest?

You should present a positive contrast.  That is always be yourself, your “best self.”  The best way you can do that is by not competing with your lover’s new partner.  That will only make the situation worse.

When you are with your beloved, be positive and focus on having a good time and sharing positive experiences.  If you are consistently having good experiences, your ex will enjoy a certain feeling of comfort and joy around you.

No matter how it appears on the outside, your ex’s new love interest has flaws too.  It’s not always rosy between them.  If you consistently provide a fun experience and make it comfortable for your ex to be around you, then you can create a positive contrast from what your ex may be experiencing with this other person.  Obviously this makes it much easier for him / her to desire to get back together with you.

3. Don’t do anything which puts your ex on the defensive.

This is truly counterproductive to any efforts of getting back together.  Be careful what questions you ask, especially personal ones.  At a minimum, this leads to your ex feeling uncomfortable and at most it can lead to an argument or an unpleasant experience.  And your ex will not likely want to be with you if they associate you with negative experiences.

If you want to have a complete step-by-step strategy on how to implement the above ideas, and many other effective ways to win back you lover, check this top rated guide “Win Back Love“.

Don’t Make Your Ex Jealous

September 26, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Many relationship gurus support the idea of making your ex jealous as a way of returning her/him back to you. They think your ex will realize how much they like you and will come crawling back. Don’t buy this idea. This technique will more harm than good. It may work initially, but soon enough you’ll be right back where you started.

Why jealousy doesn’t work: When your ex sees you with a new “love interest,” they might conclude any of the following…

  1. You are no longer available. Any lingering doubts they have had are now replaced with a clear sign they should move on, and perhaps find a new love themselves.
  2. You are clearly trying to make them jealous, or you are using this new person as a rebound. In either case, you run the risk of looking immature, which is obviously not an attractor.  If your ex sees through your plan, you efforts to get back together are dead.
  3. Initially, either consciously or sub-consciously, your ex may wonder how they stack up against your new love interest. They may even wonder if they are good enough for you. And for the sake of satisfying their ego, they may get back together with you.

 

This is what some of the so-called experts have tried to sell. In most cases you will not get back together and for those rare cases that do get back together, their chances for staying together are slim.

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Are The Two Of You Against a Brick Wall?

September 24, 2008 | Leave a Comment

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In her top rated (4 Stars) e-book, Amy discuss many issues, including problems with the in-laws and the essential things you need to do to identify exactly what is going on in your relationship and how you can turn things around.

After talking and sharing ideas and experiences with so many in the field,  Amy had discovered the secrets that can help YOU find the answer to your marriage problems and rebuild your marriage even after months and years of arguments, conflict and unhappiness. You can get these secrets for yourself by signing up today. You can download Amy’s marriage-saving package and be reading it within minutes! Visit Amy’s website and kick-start your marriage-saving mission today!

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The Tricks to Make Your Ex Return Your Call

September 20, 2008 | Leave a Comment

What if I said that I have ‘magic’ words that you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? Yes! It’s hard to believe. Not many people know that there are words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call. Now I am going to share one of the “tricks” with you. Hopefully, I will see a drop in the statistic for broken marriages or broken relationships (if there’s such statistic). In the following paragraph, I’ll give you the technique to get your ex to return your phone call, text or IM.

You can get the complete strategy to get your ex to return your call at:

http://savemarriagesite.com/go/makingupmagic.html

Before I revealed the technique, I want to caution you this technique may not work if it is use alone. You need an ‘overall’ plan or strategy. Without this strategy, you may damage your relationship more than if she/he never returned your call.

Before we get into the actual words, let’s look at what not to say. The words that almost certain will not work. And worse still, it will put you in an awful ‘psychological’ position. They usually fall into 2 categories.

The Pleading; the message sounds like this, “John, please, please calls me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I have to talk to you.”

The Emergency; “Jane, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of the approaches above. So, there’s no necessity for me to go further.

I think you are aware that curiosity and self-interest are the two most powerful forces in a human mind.  How can you use those forces to your advantage? If you combine the two, you have a recipe that will work ‘magic’. That’s the secret. So let’s us look at what you can say and make it works nearly every time.

In a friendly tone:

“Hi John. It’s Jane. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”

Do you see how both curiosity and self interest are used?

John will not be able to resist! “What did I do?”

“What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.

Before you call, you need to do the “Set Up” which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate. It can be any small thing, but needs to be plausible. But most importantly, please have an underlying strategy like what Mr. Jackson lay out in the Magic of Making Up before you make that call.

http://savemarriagesite.com/go/makingupmagic.html

If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and she/he call you back, you can do more damage than good if you do not handle it correctly. What I am saying is what you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is more important than getting them to return your call. Make sense?

So, plan what you going to do before, during and after your ex return your call.

When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms

September 17, 2008 | Leave a Comment

This story touched, moved and inspired me. Allow me to share with you.

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy.. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.

This was the scene ten years ago.

The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.

Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.

Dew came into my life.

It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her.

Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls’ eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.

Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife.. But I couldn’t help doing so.

I moved Dew’s hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I’ve got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.

However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.

Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew’s body. This was the means of my entertainment.

One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn’t imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.

Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.

When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I’ve got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I’m serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry.. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.

Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.

She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month s time before divorce, and in the month’s time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn’t want him to see our marriage was broken.

She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.

I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.

I told Dew about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don’t tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.

On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.

On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn’t tell Dew about this.

I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain.. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.

Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.

I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn’t notice that our life lacked intimacy.

I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won’t divorce. I’m serious.

She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever.. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of life, not because we didn’t love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until we are old.

If the story touches, moves and inspires you, share it with your friends. They might get something from it.

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